I look forward to a beautiful tomorrow.

Yummy breakfast to look forward to!!




Night falls. It’s time for bed.
A full day of hard work is completed. Still feeling energetic, I know it’s time to go get rest and be ready for tomorrow.

Indeed, recently in the last few days, I’ve been looking forward to go to bed early so that I can wake up the next day feeling energized and refreshed. And for some reason, perhaps healthier/cleaner diet and even more exercises, I feel so much more alive mentally and alert physically throughout the day and do not get tired as easily like I did before.

But I think there is some other reason, and that is I’m starting to have clearer idea of what I want in my life.

For the past year or two, I was merely going through the days instead of living them. Gradually, I was learning to understand what I did not want in life. Now, I am getting to know what I really want for myself in the future, and I am getting totally excited about making it happen, by trying new things and experiences. Of course, I still have my doubts and fear, that at times I just want to stop and quit trying. I have to admit that although I consider myself to be quite a brave person, sometimes I am still a bit scared. I worry about failing. What if it doesn’t work? Won’t I be wasting my time and effort into it? But deep inside I know, I want to keep trying and make it happen, no matter how hard it would be and how much time it might require to get there, I am still willing to see to it.

You know why? Because I only have one life to live. Life is wasted when I spend too much time and effort on how I can do wrong instead of how I can make right, or at least make happen.

So tonight I am grateful for what I’ve done today, that I’ve tried something new and made the most out of the day. Now I shall get rest and look forward to wake up to another beautiful tomorrow.

Have a wonderful day you all! X

I am Grateful for Everything Happened in My Life, Good or Bad.

LIFE is full of HOPE!

Couple days ago I had a huge revelation. I mean, life-changing kind. And I would like to share with you all here.

I don’t know how many of you have been reading my posts, and how much you might have realized that I had this constant battle between moving on with my past and struggling with it. By “my past” I mean my upbringing, my past relationship with my parents, especially that with my father. I know I know, this topic has been old, but please, bear with me for a while here. I promise this is most likely the last post I would ever write on this topic here.

Like I said in my previous post, I finally came to understanding that I needed to accept who I was. Now, this time it’s really different. During lunch with my parents a couple days back, I suddenly had this idea popped up in my head: I had been so lucky to have all these wonderful things in my life that I didn’t realize! Thanks to my parents, I got to study what I loved, I had the eye-opening chance to study abroad, to travel across countries during my study and with work which was also what I studied and was passionate about, to continue to see this world by making money with my passion, to connect with people of different nationalities and backgrounds as well as to create my own community through learning languages, reading, writing and my work. Why did I think life had been unfair to me? I should be feeling grateful for everything my wonderful parents who came from a poor background had provided me through hard work and perseverance, and above all, through love. I would be such an ungrateful person if I still thought they should have given me more and brought me up differently! I finally accepted that this had always been who I had been, and I was and still am loved by my parents dearly, and that there needed not be anything to be changed whatsoever. And now with all the experiences and knowledge that I have gained from the past, I am fully ready and charged to become the new me. The metamorphosis has begun!

I am grateful for everything happened in my life, whether it be good or bad, joyful or painful. I accept the way it was and I have moved on. I accept that it had made me a better person, equipped me for who I am now, so that I can help and inspire others to let go of their past and transform themselves into better versions of their own!

Now would you all excuse me, but I will have to retreat and create a better version of myself as well, by getting a good night’s rest before the big day tomorrow! (not wedding!)

Ciao for now, enjoy your weekend and above all, enjoy your LIFE, because it’s so precious and beautiful, every minute of it.

Love & Peace, SelfWonder x

Stop complaining and start living !

Life is Beeeeautiful! La vie est très très belle!

There were times I felt that life was unfair for me. I wished I were born in a wealthier and more educated family, that I were raised by a pair of more caring and loving more encouraging and less abusive parents, that I were
given more opportunities while young to learn, explore and see the world, etc etc. I felt jealous when I saw others had more resources and were grown up with better background. I just wished I were given the same that I knew I could have achieved even more than them…

But those wishes are over. First is that I know and accept that life is indeed unfair. How about those children who are growing up in third world countries, with extreme poverty and even worse, in war zone day in and day out, with no clear water, no electricity, no food, no safety, and no education? Perhaps even without parents? How about those women, who are looked down as the second class citizens, who are threatened, punished or even killed when raped? Do I have more to complain about now?

I know, I was lack of many things, yet I also know, I have a lot to be thankful for. I remember my mother used to say to me whenever I felt frustrated with where my life was going, “you are not at the bottom of the pyramid, and you are not at the top. You are in much better position than many people.” To that I annoyingly replied, “yes mother that is true, but you cannot compare me to those at the bottom! I want to be better and go up and higher!” I was always very grumpy and upset when things did not go exactly the way I wanted them to be.
Last night, after dinner with my parents, I suddenly said to my mother, “I think I am alright. I look okay, I have a decent work and income, I get to do things and travel when I like to, I have many basic needs covered. I think I have a good life: I am quite satisfied and I should be content and grateful at this stage, although certainly I still want to and would improve myself in many ways.” I could tell that my mother was a little surprised by my comments, to which she responded with a gentle nod of consent.

I am still from time to time dissatisfied with many aspects of my life and myself: the way I look, the body I have, the career I take, the relationships I am in… Nonetheless, in the middle of this dissatisfaction and the swirl of this chaotic world, I know very well that, there is so much that I should be and am grateful for, that I have a wonderful life, because, I get to live, I get to breathe, I get to see, hear and feel; I get to enjoy my life on my own and share it with others, and, I get to write it down for you to read here. Life is absolutely amazing and fantastic this way, don’t you think so?

I hope you are all having an awesome week!

La vie! You are a true blessing to me.

Life is a blessing to you and me!

Sometimes it’s easy to take everything and everyone around you for granted:

The air and water, the sun and the wind, the trees and the parks, the space that we have and the shelter we live under;

The family, the parents, the friends, the colleagues, the boss, the clients, the students, the cashier at the store, the barrister at the coffee shop, the salesperson at the candle shop, the receptionist at the gym;

Even the people you don’t like, the people you disagree or cannot come to terms with, even those you actually hate or feel disgusted with;

Everything and everyone surrounds us is there for a reason, we should greet each one of them with joy and peace, with love and acceptance (or let them be that way).

When we live our lives with gratitude, we are much happier persons. Let us feel alive each moment every single day and take it all in! Life is truly wonderful this way!

Being alive is a real blessing. Once you start to understand and believe in it, you will start living your life to the fullest and make each moment count.

You all have a blessed and productive week ahead!

Purpose of My Life

I believe finally, I have found the purpose of my life.

And unbelievably, or almost ironically, it has been what I have been doing and passionate about the whole time in the past few years, in the last decade, or perhaps, even as long as I remember when I start living my life…

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As I was trying to write this post on my phone, I saw I dropped down a few points on a note some time ago:

Meaning
Purpose
Passion
Create community
Do something people want not just out of personal interest

I don’t recall where I read the points above from, but I do think about things like this, all, the, time. Seriously, all the time, I ask myself, what is the purpose of my life if any? What do I live for? How do I live my life to the fullest and make the most out of it so that I can influence people and contribute to the world?

What I found was, most people won’t even think about these things. “What do you mean by purpose? It’s just life.” “Be happy.” “Earn more money and make my life better.” “Build a family. Have kids.” “Go to work. Get paid. Go party and spend money and have a good time, like most people do.”

I think what had stopped me from moving forward with what I had been doing was that I had a question about the last point: do something people want but not just out of personal interest. The thing that I have been passionate about is not very mainstream, so I thought maybe if I really wanted to make a difference then I should do something else, something that most people could relate to, something that could inspire and change the lives of people for the better.

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Recently, I had a life crisis : not exactly a midlife one but perhaps close to, because it had come to the point that I felt like I desperately needed to make a drastic change in my career so that I could become who I truly wanted, to be more influential in other people’s lives and a more important person in the world. I felt like I could not waste my life ahead any longer, probably because I did in the past years/life, on sulking on my sad childhood and unlucky experiences, on moaning why life and people didn’t treat me better. Now that I have a new positive wonderful life, I absolutely need to start living well every single minute…

So I started to think hard, “what should I really do? What should I change?” It drove my crazy because I couldn’t figure out if this or that approach would be good, there were just so many things I thought I needed to do, but there was so little time to do everything at the same time!! Then I did this amazing thing that usually didn’t happen to me: I talked to almost every single person I met, and even called up some friend that I hadn’t seen for long time but I felt he could help me. And you know what? He did. He showed me what had been important to me and what I should focus on doing to make myself a better career and a better person, and that was what I had been working on intensely in the past few years! The conversation just cleared up my head and made me all so excited about what I had to keep doing, only with more focus and diligence, which I was more than happy to devote to my career and life.

Maybe it’s not really him who showed me the way, but it’s him who clarified my thoughts. For that I thank him tremendously. And so here we go, I am back on track to continue to serve the purpose of my life, to guide, educated and inspire others, with such work I feel grateful and truly content every single day.

I hope you all have a purposeful and fulfilling week ahead!

When there’s a Will, there’s Freedom.

When there’s a Will, there’s Freedom.

We all have freedom to choose how to live our lives. Oh yes we do. Sometimes we choose not to choose or not to change, because we are afraid of taking risk. Or we are just plain lazy to do anything about the situation we are sick of.

That’s fine. We are free to live the way we want to be. We are free to be lazy and do absolutely nothing to make our lives better.

Believe me, anything we do to try to change will at least be better than stay in the current situation that we are not satisfied with right now.

Because, even if we take risk and it fails to change anything, at least we have tried. And in the process of trying, we would always learn something about ourselves, about our lives, about who we are and what we want for ourselves.

And I truly believe that, it’s always better to try to do something different and move forward, because such act of bravery and hard work always make us a better person and give us a better life than not. Because, I have been there and done it myself many times, and I still keep trying. Because, from each of these acts of risk and bravery I learnt so much about myself and who I want to be and what live I want to have.

When there’s a will, there’s freedom – freedom to choose, freedom to change, freedom to love, freedom to let go and be content with where we are at, freedom to become who we truly want to be without all the restraints and limitations we give ourselves to hide within.

Would you start believing that you are free to become who you want to be today, right here right now?

Try it. It feels absolutely liberating 🙂

When there’s a Will, there’s Freedom.

You all have a fantastic weekend, my lovely Readers.

Live. Love. Matter.

Today I want to share with you all this message today:


Live. Love. Matter.

– by Brendon Burchard


I know, this guy might sound a bit repetitive and too energetic and positive to the point annoying at times, but hey, I think it really works, at least for him, and I believe for a lot of his readers like me as well.

His recurring idea is, “At the end of our lives, we are going to ask ourselves these three questions:”


Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?


If you are going to watch only one video of his, this is it: here you go:
Brendon Burchard


(Anyway, the other videos of his are quite redundant after a while.)


I also found this other video on another website, but this site posts clearly the ten points from the video so if you don’t have time to watch the whole thing you can still benefit from reading the mina points quickly):


https://www.briantracy.com/blog/business-success/brendon-burchard-asks-did-i-live-did-i-love-did-i-matter/


So, that’s what I have been thinking, what is my niche, what is my expertise, what should I be doing or changing to become bigger and more inspiring to other people and make a difference to the world?

It turns out I don’t have to move away from what I am already doing and what I already know. I only have to focus on it and become the expertise that everyone goes to.

And you know how I discovered that? I asked for help. By talking about it with other people who knows you and in the business, they helped me clarify my ideas. Instead of trying to figuring out all by myself in my head and do things on my own, I took time to clear my mind and discuss with others. That was such an awesome mind-blowing experience. Now I know what to do! Hurray!!

I believe everyone has a mission in life, only s/he hasn’t found out what it is yet. Keep searching, at the same time keep living. Focus on this moment, right here right now. When you worry too much about the future, it makes your head even more messed up. I’ve been there, done it, and am trying not to go there that often!

You all have a fantastic weekend, you lovely people out there! SelfWonder xoxo

You will always be as strong as you want to be.

I’ve been reading this book I bought from my last adventure. It’s really amazing and I would share further with you later in the next post what it’s all about. But to make it brief, it’s about how you can drastically change your life with establishing a new habit in a small way. It’s a fascinating book to me and it’s called “The Power of Habit”. I can assure you it’s very different from all the other books on the same topic.

Anyhow, today I just want to share this line from one of the true stories from the book, and I wrote it down and took a photo of it here:

Truth be told.

This line was quoted from a story about this guy who was brought up in a dysfunctional family : his parents were long-term drug addicts and he felt safer when they were high! He had seen his dad overdosed and had to take him to the hospital, when he was only 9 years’ old. He dropped out of high school to find a job and get away from his family (obviously a wise decision), at the beginning he had trouble holding on to his jobs (understandable) and he started wondering how he could manage his emotions and change for a better life. Eventually he got into working at the Starbucks and he became a manager of two branches overseeing 40 employees, had a stable income and pension plan, was debt free and never late to work. And this was the line when he told one of his staff who got upset by some mean customer.

I believe it’s so true. We can let ourselves be defeated by the situation we are in and people surrounding us trying to bully us and push us around, but we know we have the power to change and that with time and effort we can leave it/them for a better life. I have experienced a lot of that and every time I came out quicker and a stronger person. And I know you can too, because when you keep following my blog and reading my posts, I believe you want to better yourself every single day and be the change you want to see in your world!

I hope you all have a powerful and courageous week ahead! Xoxo

Focus on what you do want to happen

Dear Readers,

Thank you for reading this post. I just want to share with you this article here:

30 Things You Should Stop Putting Yourself Through

I sincerely urge you to all read it. I find it as a fantastic reminder for me. Here are a few especially great points the writer makes:

Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”

The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.

…making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world.

And most importantly for me, these two sentences just shone in front of my eyes as I read along, the light bulb in my head immediately lit up:

Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.

Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.

So there you go if you don’t have time to read the whole article – but, please do! I am sure you will find it useful too!

Have a wonderful weekend ahead you all lovely readers out there! xoxo 🙂

P.S. Here is a photo from my last adventure hehe ~

I Love Travel Time!

Love is not perfect, but the struggle makes it stronger.

To love or not to love, that is the question.

I just want to say what’s on my mind about you and that’s it. You don’t have to do anything about it. Just please read this through.

I think when two person meet, there is a reason for that. There is already a connection between the two and there is a lesson to learn from each other. From our brief encounter I would say you can be a loving and caring person, but perhaps from your past experience you were hurt and you shut down easily when you encountered some initial failure during our meetings because you wanted to stop being hurt and feeling pain again. You have to know that you are not the only one who is afraid of that feeling. Being vulnerable in love and relationship can be the worst feeling in the world, but without it one will not be able to experience love in its true form. It is indeed a very scary thing. I am afraid of that feeling as well. But I also want to try again and have that true form of love again, no matter how much and/or if it’s going to hurt again. Well I am still scared of that but I am willing to take the risk with the right person.

I know you have the same question,
how do we know if that’s the right person? I don’t know for sure either. But like you said, if you feel that’s the right person, then that’s it. Maybe that’s it, I am not sure myself either. It can be anyone you feel s/he is, you just can never be sure until you really have tried your best to find out. After all, I think, love is a choice. But love is a feeling and faith as well. One has to be brave enough to take that leap of faith and jump right in, and be courageous enough to stick with it and work on it with the other person. Love is a wonderful feeling isn’t it?

You told me you felt empty. I did not forget about the reason why you felt so. But I want to tell you that you do not have to feel that way. You need to love yourself well first. You are a fine person and you really should know and address that in your mind. If you don’t know that then let me tell you again and again: you are a wonderful and loving person, please love yourself first, then start to love others, because you are full of love and are capable of giving and receiving love in return. If you really do not want to feel empty anymore, please, start loving yourself now and start loving the person you want to be in love with. Then, the love you will receive from the one you love shall fill your heart fully, because it is a love of interaction and co-dependence. It is a love of giving and receiving. It is a love of acceptance and forgiveness. It is a love in its true sense of form. Love between two person is not perfect, there is always struggle, we all have to accept that and work with that. But when we stand firm and deal with that struggle with our partner together, we make that love and bond stronger every single day and every single time we tackle a new obstacle. Or at least that is what I believe in.

So there you go. This is pretty much what I wanted to tell you. You gave me something that I thought I would never feel again. For that I thank you. Now good luck and have a good life. I wish you will find your true love. And myself mine as well.